Saturday, May 31, 2008

What would I do?

Yesterday I saw my neighbors two girls jumping around in a rain puddle after the storm. They were in their bathing suits and rain boots. They were having a ball. Their mother was right there supervising the whole time just sitting there and watching them have fun.

My first thought was, "I can't believe she is letting them jump around in that muddy rain puddle". My second thought was, "Would I let Francesco do such a thing? No way!" My third thought was, "Why not?"

I could not answer the "why not" right that second. I then realized I probably said no because I wasn't in the mood. I had a million things to do and I didn't have the time to watch him (I couldn't believe I didn't have the time to watch him have fun, how pathetic is that?)

That bring me to today. We went to visit my parents that live an hour away, so we left early this morning. That meant that no laundry got done, dishes were not cleaned or put away, toys were strewed all over the house and the carpet hadn't seen a vacuum in 3 days.

We were getting closed to home when I said to my husband that there were a million things that need to get done and we needed a game plan. Who was going to do what and with who (one kid per parent!). I thought if we had a game plan all of the above would get done and the kids would get feed, bathed and put to bed in a reasonable amount of time.

Well my game plan went right out the window as we got out of the car. The neighbors were practically waiting in the driveway as we pulled up. The oldest announced that they were having a little pool party and that Francesco was invited.

My first thought was I don't have time for this, but my response was "lets get you in you swim trunks". So as we are standing in the yard the little girls from next store tells me they just decided to have a party today. They even strung up streamers and decorations, made signs for the door and blew up the kiddie pool. All of this for no reason what so ever, just to have a party.

When I asked who was coming to this party she tells me just them and Francesco. Then their Dad comes out and hands me and my husband Mango Mojitos (now I am really liking this party). So we sit outside sipping Mojitos, watching the kid splash around in the kiddie pool full of freezing water from the hose for the next two hours.

Now, not one stitch of laundry got done, the dishes never saw water and the toys are still everywhere. I did however get the time to watch my 22 month old have the time of his life.

When I go bed tonight all that stuff still awaits me tomorrow but my mood has definitely been lifted, I like the Mommy that I was tonight (I am not so pathetic). I hope that I can continue to realize it is OK to leave the mess and let the kids be kids. They only get to do it once!


  1. Hi Cara and thanks for your comment at my place. You have a great blog here, I think I'll enjoy reading your thoughts.

    For months now, I've been saying that the next time it rains, my girl and I will go dance in the rain. simple pleasures. But have we done it? Nope!

    I think you definitely made the right choice tonight. Your boys won't remember a stack of dishes in the sink, but they will remember fun times with mom!

  2. anglophilefootballfanatic.comJune 2, 2008 at 5:50 AM

    You know there are some days you aren't in the mood & that's totally fine. Expected even. And, I don't think you ever want to come to my house. You vac every three days? Wow.

    The new site is up:

  3. You cannot be in the mood everyday, but I am glad that you took a moment and let it all go. That is one of the most rewarding things for me as a parent. Letting it all go, the laundry will get done ... playing is so worth it!

  4. After I read that the carpet hadn't been vacuumed in three days, and that being bad...Wow! I'm impressed!'s been a good week for us and that is actually pretty good! Yes, sometimes you just need to leave it all and let go. There's always going to be laundry to do, and as long as there is a pool to be played in and Mango can wait. :) Usually those spontaneous parties are the best ones.

    Your little guys are adorable! :)

  5. That is such an important reminder for me and something I work on daily. I want to be that mom too. The kind of mom that makes her children look back on their childhood and think it was magical. It is such a balancing act for me because I also want to be the kind of mom who keeps the house in order (not like a museum, but clean) and has wonderful meals prepared. Thinking about my mom, she managed to do both. I was never worried how the house would look when I brought friends over, and she made every event (big or small) exciting. That's how I want to be.
    Thanks for the reminder. :)

  6. Yeah for leaving the house a mess! sometimes it's worth NOT missing a moment in your child's life. with that said, I better go finish the laundry - and vacuum. It's been longer that 3 days! LOL!

    Nice blog.